Day Four is upon me and I made it, YEAH!  On day one Debbie Ford stated that most people don't make it past day three however I will say keeping up with the live calls each day, journaling, writing the blog and keeping up with everything else is a challenge.  Isn't that what life is all about?  That next challenge to empower us to walk across the plains to the next mountain that awaits.  When doing this type of self help work you learn to recognize those mountains in the distance before actually reaching them, that's what's so wonderful about working within yourself.  So those of you that are still with me, I APPLAUD YOU!!!  I have lots of juicy stuff for ya.....

As I grab my pen and paper I'm ready for the next live call.  Debbie Ford tells us that without forgiveness we are chained to the past.  Our lives are predictable because we continue with repetitive behaviors each day.  Forgiveness is the hallway between the past and the future.  Move out of our heads and into our hearts.  You can't do it alone but with the divine it WILL happen.  It has nothing to do with the mind and everything to do with your heart.  Debbie goes on to read a passage from her book, "21 Day Consciousness Cleanse", located on page 106.

"Unknowingly, your resentments define who you are and who you can be in the future, because you can be only as great as the size of your heart.  And if your ability to love from deep in your heart is clouded by the experiences of the past, you are in a lose-lose situation.  You first lose your freedom when something penetrates your emotional body and affects you so painfully.  And you lose again when you decide to hold on to the bad feelings instead of turning them into powerful fuel for the future."

I'm floored when I hear Debbie talk about the heart and it being penetrated as this was the picture that I drew on day three and burned in the fire.  At that very moment, I know without a doubt that I will try with all my might to work through each day.  Are you with me?

Debbie takes us into a visualized meditation as she does with each call. 
Visualize around your belly and see if your forgiveness plane is a little flicker or a roaring flame.  Rate it from 1-10.  Allow yourself to see where you are at this moment.  Allow this # to flow in your awareness.  Allow yourself to see what intention you can create to fuel and strengthen your forgiveness plane.  Repeat this intention, breathe it in.  What thought, belief, or behavior will you have to give up to ensure you fulfill your intention today?  Don't judge it, breathe it in, and say that it's safe to fulfill your intention.  Send encouragement to everyone else and tell them why it's safe to ask for forgiveness.  NOW, turn this around and say this to yourself. (The Shadow Effect)  Send that intention out to the world.  Know that your part of this contagious fever and let it go into the past.  Know that we heal our hearts and support others in healing their hearts. 

Notes:

• Forgiveness is the key to unlocking your greatest future.  Break down the self composed barriers that hold you from your greatest. 
• Find a gift from the pain, claim this gift, and shift it.  I'm no longer going to let this let me down!
• The power you have as a human and a divine being is there if we choose to ask and are humble.  NO MATTER when it happened, guide me to where I must go to find the gift that this other soul was gifting me.
• You don't have to be stuck in this energy of the past.  Bring forth your souls desire, bring back which you came to this course to receive.  Ask your holy part why this resentment is holding you back from reaching your soul's desire.
• Bring to mind the resentment that your holding.  As you see this, ask the divine to see it in the greater context of your souls evolution.  Ask your holy self, "Support me in growing to become my most magnificent self".   Ask, "How this experience was meant to open your heart to your greatness".  Ask, "What is the gift or lesson that this experience was meant to give me".  Ask, "How and what you can do to let go and forgive".  Write a letter even if your not going to mail it.  Make a phone call.
• What action can you take in the outer world to support you through your grievance?  Allow yourself to open to the shift as you let go and let GOD.  Thank the Divine
• Give yourself permission to be in a humble state throughout the day.  Send love out to the world that someone else in the world is releasing, and so on, and so on.

Caller asks about forgiving a husband for cheating. 
Debbie suggests watching, "The Shadow Effect" and reading her book, "Spiritual Divorce".  She goes on to say, that this is one of the most difficult things a soul could experience in this lifetime.  Get close to your soul's purpose and thank that man for setting you free. (I'm thinking amen sister!)  If you are willing to trust in that, you will find a future that's so incredible.  Spirit does not set this up for you, WE set it up.  Yes, you are a victim, you have been victimized but our soul's come here to learn lessons and it's not easy to go through it.  You beat yourself up for what happened.  Even if it's truth, it deems you powerless.  My soul chose to learn these lessons, I LOVE MYSELF for going through it.  Another divine blueprint that's being exposed to you, to open up for our greatest possibilities.

Caller asks about forgiving her daughter.
This caller states that her daughter did very bad things and now does not speak to her any longer.  She wants to have a relationship with her daughter and you can tell that it's eating her up inside. One thing that Debbie says to this caller really sticks with me, "Family is great as they are mirrors for drama".  I related to the first caller through my first marriage but this call has me in tears.  Because I have been in this same situation with my son years ago.  I SO want to reach out to her and send her love through the universe.  Past loves are always easier to forgive but when it comes to our children, it's like that siphoning hose that Debbie talked about in day three.  It just funnels all the energy from our heart.  But you must take this back, as Debbie is right, there are two soul's learning lessons and unless you heal that wound, it will forever be unmended for you both.  Debbie suggests that this caller write her daughter a letter and again, you don't need to send it, just write it.  The caller decided to send an email.  I would love to hear how this story unfolds.....

My grudges, resentments, and disappointments:

• I'm resentful and disappointed in my ex-husband for having affairs.
• I'm disappointed in my son for making decisions in his life that affect the entire family. (He and I made some BIG plans for our souls in this lifetime! We have been through so much but we always tell each other, I LOVE YOU!)
• I'm resentful towards an old boss that fired me during my son's spinal surgery. (I had sent her a letter years ago and always smile at her when I see her in town.  She does not reciprocate but I do feel more at peace with this.)
• I'm disappointed in family members past actions that try to affect my husband and I's relationship. Also disappointed in myself for reacting to the situation and taking it out on someone that had nothing to do with it.
• Resentment towards my husband as he goes along his day to day actions with no worries about the groceries, washing clothes, cooking, paying the bills, and cleaning the doggy bowls.  (He is an amazing person and I love him dearly. We are BOTH working on this.  Next month I will be blogging about a love program.)

What is the gift from these grudges, resentments, and disappointments:

• My ex-husband taught me the gift of Trust.  He made it possible for me to be open to my soul mate.
• My son has taught me SO MUCH and I'm forever grateful to him.  He has taught me PATIENCE! 
• My old boss taught me the gift of Opportunity. It was this event that propelled me into the holistic, self help, new age movement. This is a BIG THANK YOU to her!
• Family members have taught me to truly listen to others and that others opinions of me are not who I am.  Always be open and speak from the heart.  They may not always understand or relate to you but they are not walking in your shoes with your soul. Appreciate who you are and not that you are different or try to be what they want you to be.   Look within to see how you relate to them as a mirror.   I truly believe that our family is our soul's deepest heart wrenching lessons.  Why would we say I love you to our family members before someone else?  Lessons of the heart!
• My husband gifts me with the lessons of letting go and not worrying about the small stuff.  Learning that others are capable of doing things in their own way.  My way is not always the best way! (Shhh, don't tell him I said this.)  We both signed up for many lessons too.  We have learned so much from one another!  I'm the yang in his yin.  LOL

God I ask that you walk with me and flow through me to shine my light into the universe.  I ask that you help me listen to my inner core of being.  I know that you are within me without judgment.  I feel free of the trespasses of others and send forgiveness to those that which I have trespassed.  And so it is for the highest good.

My intention:  I am like a caterpillar that transforms into a beautiful butterfly.  I spread my wings and touch each flower free from trespasses.

Love Potion for Day 4
1 cup of water
1 lime freshly squeezed
1 tsp of agave
1/4 tsp of grinded ginger root

Day 4 Lesson on Oprah.com

I send love and accept love from all! 
Kandi Phillips
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