"Surrender and allow your feelings to surrender to a power greater than yourself."  This is the message from Debbie Ford on day six of the 21 Day Consciousness Cleanse.  Debbie loves this word so much that when she could not handle it anymore, she surrendered to the divine.  I recall reading about her story of surrender while laying on the bathroom floor during her forth drug treatment program.  It was there at the West Palm Beach Institute that Debbie surrendered herself to a power greater than self.  On her hands and knees she began to recite the Serenity Prayer:

God, grant me the serenity
To accept the things I cannot change;
Courage to change the things I can;
And wisdom to know the difference.

And even though Debbie would go up and down she knew she was at peace.  "Give up our will for the higher will."  This is what she prescribes.  I say, this one prescription is powerful medicine!  Debbie goes on to read a poem by Rumi, translated by Coleman Barks

The Guest House

This human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.

Be grateful for whatever comes.
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

Notes:
Allow your feelings to exist by surrendering them to a power greater than yourself. 
When you resist your emotions, when you invest your energy in wishing and wanting to feel different than you do, you have to find ways to indulge yourself in quick fixes, giving up your soulful dreams for short lived gratification.
You withhold and suppress your emotions when you believe that expressing your feelings might actually jeopardize your place of belonging in the world. (Oh yeah!  Is this what's wrong with the world?  Let's all cry now and get it out!)
It's your interpretations of your emotions, not the emotions themselves that you resist the most.
Deny them, suppress them by overeating, or pretend they are not real, they can't help you in finding your way back home into the arms of the Divine.
There's nothing like a much needed cry, but do others run when this happens?
By granting your feelings the right to exist, you melt away these interpretations layer by layer and cleanse the lens through which you see yourself and the world.
Imagine these feelings as a child and hand it over to God, ask him to embrace this.  Be a friend to your emotions and you will be free.
Once you embrace this you will look for replacements of what makes you feel good such as the love potion drinks, going for a walk, yoga, reading, etc.  Allow your soul to speak to you, the voice that knows the greater truth.

Caller:
Growing up she was taught to not express emotions.  (This is true for many of us.)  Debbie Ford suggests re parenting yourself.  It does not matter how much spiritual work you've done, you come with the same issues as everyone else.  Look at yourself as that small child and say it's ok to express your emotions.  Hold that child like you LOVE IT! 
Would you hold your sad sack like you hold your happy sack? 
When you look through divine eyes, how would we look at that person? 
What's the angel saying to the person that's sad? 
Not to hold it back or pretend it's not there.  The angel would hold you, comfort you, let you know that everything will be fine, to let the tears flow with love and surrender to the feeling.  Create a new relationship with that sad child.  Bring divine love to all that we are.

We are unfair to ourselves, we beat ourselves up for what we feel.  These emotions are part of our humanity.  I'm not good enough, is like a see saw with, I am good enough.  It's learning how to make everything neutral.  If Debbie never said, "I'm not good enough" we would not be here on the call tonight with this book in front of us.  Imagine you were God and how you would relate to everything.

Feelings I have deemed wrong, awful, scary, or otherwise unacceptable:

At the age of three my father, brother and I fell through a flight of stairs.  This was very scary to me and has left me with the fear of heights.  Even at the age of three I felt guilty that my brother who was a baby had a broken leg while I was left unscathed.  I continued to treat my brother as my own child because of the guilt.

At the age of ten a cousin sexually abused me.  I looked up to her as a person already entering adulthood and listening to her stories of love.  I felt that she stole the innocence of true abiding love from me.  I tend to shut out love or feel I'm worthy of love.  I feel they always need or want something in return.

The Gifts I've received from these feelings:

Fear - To not be fearful of jumping into the unknown.  I can only live in my own personal falls in life and not give power to another's fall. (Interesting story of how I found this out last year with Dr. JessieJames Robinson of Little Hands Integrative Therapy located in BocaRaton.  He is an amazing loving soul! Thank you Jessie for thatunplanned session of tapping!)

Love - To accept love and give love unconditionally with no expectations.  Letting my heart be open and accept all the love that is without judgment of another soul.  To respect my divine soul.  (I don't think I have ever talked about this. This was dug real deep inthe depths of my soul,  thank you Debbie Ford for helping me begin tobring this to the light!)

I have a secret to share with you......  YOU, yes you the reader is helping me push through the 21 Day Consciousness Cleanse.  Initially, I thought I would write a few lines about the book and live calls with Debbie Ford but you know I'm really getting into this.  I'm loving the support through the posts, private messages, and 21 Day Consciousness Cleanse on Facebook.  I'm connecting with all these beautiful souls that are all there as a collective energy bringing light to what they thought was this deep darkness that no one else understood.  I DO, WE DO!  I'm always telling my clients that they are NOT the only ones going through these deep dark secrets that they have felt so ashamed to share with others.  You can't buy things or make your home this beautiful mansion and think that this will cover up the times that you have wept with tears behind the closed door. 

Love Potion for Day 6
1 cup of water
1 tsp of agave
1 ring of pineapple

Day 6 Lesson on Oprah.com

Kandi Phillips
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